Toughie Women (Mga Sigang Babae)

Over dinner last week, my friend V........ and I were animatedly talking about the changes in us that come with aging. It's not only about the physical changes but the emotional manifestations that have been eating us. It was an engaging conversation because we can both relate to the issue. We feel that there are inconsistencies in our personalities and we are totally helpless in doing something about it. An offshoot of this personality flaw is our impatience and impertinence

I cautioned that it must be the onset of the M word that causing this. We are still not quite there yet but we might be experiencing PMS (I know girls way into their puberty are experiencing this discomfort as well but I am talking about the one for riped women... yes, lets not keep on mentioning it). I told my friend V...... about a classmate who had it earlier and thought she was acting bizarrely as she would hop from resto to resto eating just bits and pieces or just drinking coffee whenever she had her anxiety attacks. She also related her lack of patience for people particularly those lacking sense. During this trying period, she was barking up at loved ones but at the same time asking for understanding. This woman is really a gracious person and her past (mis)demeanor can be traced to the M word.

Going back to my friend V....... She is one friend I could pour my heart out to, no holds bar. We didn't use to go out as often as we do now. Her stature as a woman living alone (her hubby and daughters are in Canada seeking a new life as immigrants) provided the impetus to get together more often. She could have joined them except that she holds a rather secured job here that cannot be easily replaced in Canada. So this temporary separation appears to provide us the time to get closer before she finally joins her family). Anyway, topics ranges from family, in-laws, pets, home, friends, fashion, work at times (the kabwisitan at work).

We got into the topic of how as the years pass by, we are getting to be more antipaika to 'hapless' victims of our ire. The usual victims are security guards of subdivisions or malls, salespeople, PUV drivers, even some family members. Poor them if they get to us on our wrong side or wrong days. The issue would usually be immaterial but we make a big deal out of it often beating the hapless victim to a pulp verbally of course. We would be unreasonable at times insisting on our way even if we are not always right. Most of the time, we are right or at least partially right. Armed with this, we would 'attack' our victim resulting in a spectacle where the hapless victim is humiliated for crossing us. The humiliation actually works both ways as we would see people milling around or stopping to watch the verbal attack. The object of our ire usually is not afforded the chance to reply. Having ventilated our chagrin, that's when we realize we have created a scene. If we are with family members, they are long gone or would move away from the scene to avoid being identified as companion to us (ikinahihiya kami....). By this time, we would act cool and leave in a huff (parang walang nangyari).

We were laughing hard...... I swear I could almost pee as we would fill in each other's stories. I beg for understanding as it is beyond our control. We are not bad people. It maybe the hormones acting up making us crazy. So please forgive us our hapless victims. We promise to avoid you the next time we see you or better yet go to your other co-workers to choose our next victims. That way we equalize things. Please bear with us as we are going through a transition period. You or your mother, aunts, sisters, wife, in-laws will be going through the same ordeal......... and then maybe you'd understand us better.

The week was not over for both of us. In the weekend I would invite her for lunch at our home because Shopwise would have their oxtail at a promo buy 1 take 1. Of course, we had to have kare kare.

When V...... arrived at my home, she suggested that we go to Bag of Beans in Tagaytay to drink hot choco and have toast with butter and jam........ Cool idea! Well, this is a thing that seems easy with age....... the freedom to be impulsive....... to act on a whim with careless abandon..... However, that means two toughies are dangerously lurking the streets looking for their next victims.....

Move over people, V........ and I are coming to town.........

Related Posts:
34 Menopause Symptoms
How to Tackle Menopause Gracefully
Watch Out For Male Menopause Symptoms
What Is The General Early Menopause Age?